DV...I have to agree with your overall assessment having been on both sides as a parent & coached for about 20 years up to the middle school level & now at the pony level where we really only have one "bane" parent out of 13 sets. I would, however, like to qualify my agreement. My field has been in sales for 30+ years & we have a segment of consumers we deem as "the 10% extremes". These are people, as my dad would say, "wouldn't be satisfied with a front row seat in heaven". They could & would find fault with anyone & anything & usually did. They are preachers, doctors, teachers, blue collar workers & yes...even some coaches. I would venture to say that the BC situation involved individuals of this ilk. On the coach & conversation aspect, there are several successful coaches I have had the pleasure of watching my son play for/against that were openly approachable. Ashley Burnett/Gilbert, Brent Walsh/Ben Lippen, Brian Hucks & Banks Faulkner/Lexington, Ray Derrick/Hammond, & even Andy Hallett/Flora, to mention a few, all are excellent coaches that are easily accessible in my experience with them as long as it wasn't about playing time which is absolutely the coaches prerogative. The converse approach is a personal choice & may have worked for you but I can see where it would keep all parents, good & bad, at a distance & therefore out of your hair. That's ok too but there are members of the 10% that are coaches too...just not in the BC case... they were in fact victims...as are the kids.